Your Brain, Your Business, Your Bottom Line...Connecting the Dots for Maximum Results!

Are you old enough to remember those public service announcements that used to come on the TV, saying something like...."It's 9:00, do you know where your kids are?" I was reflecting on that and thought about a crazy idea where periodically, a voice would shout down to you...."It's Wednesday, do you know where your goals are?"

Imagine what it would be like if even on a weekly basis we stopped and checked in with our goals. Oh...I guess that would presuppose that we had actually WRITTEN them down somewhere! Do you know that only about 3% of the population does this ever so important activity? It's funny. People will spend hours and thousands of dollars with an architect and designer to re-do their bathrooms, yet show up for life and business being completely unprepared! Talk about some weird priorities!

I'm going to share with you the C.R.E.A.T.E method of Goal Setting that was developed by Melanie Strick and James Roche. Melanie is having her fabulous Ultimate Business Breakthrough Intensive March 10-12 in Redondo Beach, California, and I'll be teaching this part of the workshop. You can find more info about this power-packed event by going to www.tinyurl.com/e3krv.

Here is the formula.
C - Clear and concise. Having a goal of creating more income for yourself? You can't just say you want to earn more $$. More specifically, how much? The more clear you get it, the easier to measure and attain it becomes.

R - Realistic. If you are 45 and 5'2" you probably won't be in the NBA! Your goal has to be realistic and attainable for you. Is this the right time for the goal?

E - Ecological. Is the goal safe for you? Does it fit within your value system? Who will be effected if you achieve the goal? Often people have conflicts due to this component. If you desire to spend more time with your family, yet desire a promotion which will involve M-F travel, that may not fit into your ecology.

A- As if now. Using the mind to act/think/feel/speak as if it's happened. The mind is powerful! Trick it by pretending that you already achieved your goal. You'll be surprised with how this works.

T- Timed and Toward what you want. When will the goal happen? And is it moving towards something positive, or away from what you don't want. Moving toward a goal is more powerful of a motivator. For example, you could desire to take up running because you have always wanted to do a marathon (towards motivation) or you could take up running because if you don't, you will probably have a heart attack (away from motivation).

E - End Step. This is the one I'm going to talk most about today. This is the Golden Nugget!! What is the end step you will experience in achieving your goal? For example, if you desired to become a public speaker, the 'end step' or culmination might be you on the stage in a huge auditorium, people are applauding you, and folks are running to the back of the room to buy your products. Feel all the sensations, listen to the sounds, notice as much detail as you can, and then live in that space.

What is it for you? If you make that as tangible in your mind as you can, this will turbo-charge your goal. Really spend time with the sensory details and allow yourself time each day to put yourself in that state. I guarantee that you will find yourself moving forward in more powerful ways than you had previously imagined because the goal will draw you in!

Happy creating!

P.S. Wanna know where my kids are. Sleeping soundly as I write this! In fact John just lost a tooth tonight so the tooth fairy came to visit. Here they are.... my pride and joy...



Birthdays - Danny 11 and John 7

Therese Skelly
www.MoreSmallBizSuccess.com
www.AcceleratingYourSuccess.com

Whoa Nelly! I got thinking about my last post and decided that before the American Psychological Association, therapists or 'touchy-feely' persons in the world boycott me, I'd best clarify my position on working with people's feelings.

Truth is....I love the feeling world. It may not sound like it from my first post, but I'm very passionate and experience things quite deeply. I have gone from being somewhat held hostage to my feelings... don't we call the "the 20's", or was I just the only neurotic one walking around? I now am able to use emotional mastery as one of my top skills. It's what I love, and so it's become what I'm the most passionate about teaching folks.

After you understand how to be the master of your mind, then you can learn how to use the power of your feelings and intentions to really accelerate things for yourself.
My goal for you is to learn how to manage the debilitating feelings, while maximizing the feelings/thoughts that move you forward.

I'll give you an example. I was working with a client last week who needed to make some calls to get business for her new program. I could hear it in her voice that she was a little resistant as there was FEAR and DOUBT which are the evil twins of business failure. I asked her on a scale of 1 - 10 how much she believed in her product. She scored herself as a 7, but instead of letting her passion drive her conversation, she let her hesitation lead.

What was the solution? I had her amp up that 7 to a 9 and then see what it felt like to make the calls. What did she notice? When she could put herself at a 9, she was bright, vibrant, energetic, and persuasive. Viola! We found the magic bullet that would allow her to 'master her psychology' and shift her state.

So the next time you are feeling funky, allow yourself to remember when you experienced feelings that you wanted. If you have to give a speech, remind yourself of when you were totally conident and comfortable in that situation. Allow yourself to expand that. Hey...you did it once, so you can invoke that experience again.

And finally...remember these words...."What you focus on, expands."

Meaning, allow your focus to be on the successes and on the feelings you'd rather have, and you'll begin to have more of those in your life.

Now there ya go. Have I won back the feelers in the group?

Make it a great day!
Therese Skelly
www.AcceleratingYourSuccess.com
www.MoreSmallBizSuccess.com

When I used to practice as a psychotherapist, people's 'feelings' were the gold that me things, and holds us back from giving ourself over to the new opporunities. Mastering your psychology is just like a muscle. If you go for a run and the next day 'feel the burn,' it demonstrates that you went past your comfort zone. You keep pushing through. Most of us even enjoy that newly-worked-out "Hey, my muscles are kind of stiff today" feeling as it lets us know we've done something! (It's better than the couch potato syndrome for sure.) I always tell my clients, I don't need you to be comfortable... you just need to be willing.

2. This next one is a biggie. You can't feel your way into acting differently, but you can act your way into feeling differently. I'll write it again. You can't feel your way into acting differently, but you can act your way into feeling differently. Think about that. So many of us back down from something new because we feel uncertain, afraid, overwhelmed, or a whole slew of other possibilities.

Imagine you need to make 25 cold calls tomorrow to find some new business. For most people that generates some degree of discomfort. You have two choices....you could do like very many business owners, and just wait until you feel more comfortable, or you could take the more successful route and ACT before you FEEL comfortable. The act of doing the uncomfortable thing will eventually lead you to get more okay with it. Waiting till 'motivation' or some other mysterious feeling comes over you is setting yourself up for failure. You have to learn to be the master of your moods.

So what are you going to do differently now? Try thinking about how good it's going to feel on the other side of the uncomfortable thing. Also remind yourself of a time when you pushed through feelings and persevered, only to get the results you wanted. It's the action that's going to create the change...not what you are feeling about it!

By the way, if you want to really have a breakthrough in this area, I'd encourage you to attend the Ultimate Business Breakthrough Intensive Workshop held in Redondo Beach, California on March 10-12. You can see all the info on it at www.tinyurl.com/e3krv. I'll be assisting Melanie Strick teach this powerful event, so I'd love to see you there.

Hope this was helpful!
Therese Skelly
www.MoreSmallBizSuccess.com
www.AcceleratingYourSuccess.com



Watch for part II of this theme in a few days.